Honestly? I am also guilty of this. I'm at a drive-through that's taking too long? Text. Watching T.V.? Let me check Facebook, Instagram, etc. too! Waiting around for something or someone? Where's my phone?! Oh, there's a lull in conversation? Let me see what's up in my inbox.
Though I will say I refuse to be THAT person who checks out at the register on the phone. Working a front desk for so long - I know what it's like to be on the other end. It's irritation to the HIGHEST degree and the epitome of rude. Just downright disrespectful. Especially when the Guest is attempting to not be rude who ever is on the other end yet no concern for the person in front of them. Gross!
I think I decided to take a look at myself more closely just last week. I was having a conversation with someone and in the middle of me talking (about something that I was really getting into), they picked up their phone and started reading a text. Then they started to smile. So I knew they weren't just "glancing" at a notification, but straight up ignoring me mid sentence and moving on to a conversation on their phone. My feelings were kind of hurt, and I just stopped talking. But I never let on why or that I was hurt. Do I do this to others? Have I made someone feel this way? I have no clue, but probably. Because we all go into that robot/zombie mode and become unaware of what we're doing. It's just muscle memory. Pick up phone. Check Instagram. Text. Lurk. Repeat in five minutes.
It also takes away from being in the moment. Which I constantly preach and tell myself and others to do. So hypocritical!
I don't doubt this will be a hard habit to break. But I'm making a conscious effort. No more cell phone on the table while I eat with others. No more grabbing my phone mid-conversation because I got a text or notification. No more texting or aimlessly scrolling through social media while I'm speaking to someone or someone is speaking to me.
I'm all ears. You've got my full undivided attention. I care about you, and what you have to say. :) I just hope you can take me seriously, since I'm participating in no-shave November!
Happy Hearts,
Alex
Wow that photo makes me feel like one of the masses. Thanks for sharing, I think i'm going to have a little think about me and my phone as well. Lizz x
ReplyDeleteDoesn't it though! After I laughed, it definitely made me think about myself and take a closer look.
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